Why does he keep me guessing

You don't just walk into a bookstore and pick out a random book! Or let me put it into an analogy more appropriate to women: when you go buy shoes, you try them on, to see how they feel and look it's a review and maybe you ask your friends for opinions another review.

So he is shy, try to encourage him a bit and give him the opportunity to get to know you better. Only then he'll be more ascertained as to whether you're worth it or not. He can't be sure by just looking at you, or do you want a guy that's only into you because of your looks?

Your mom is probably a wonderful women, you ask her for advice which means she is there for you. That's great and you are blessed with that. But, your mom is also from a previous generation and things have changed by now. Girls nowadays can actually walk up to the guy and initiate the conversation, or they can tell the guy about how they feel first, there's no punishment to that ;. Is this still revelant? MSamu3l Xper 6. There is a difference between someone who keeps you guessing and someone who is shy.

If you are sure a guy is intentionally keeping you guessing, then that's a different thing, and it's not really worth your time. If you have to ask if a guy likes you, he doesn't like you enough to be worried about him. If he keeps you guessing then he's more than likely playing games.

You can tell when a shy guy likes you, especially when you're getting to know each other. Mama's right, keep your options open. Maybe it wasn't because you came off needy. Means they are shy and aren't as open as others abo there feeling, not necessarily not worth your time. Your mom is completely right, you should mind her advice. Sign Up Now! Sort Girls First Guys First. There's this girl in one of my classes I like that I get kind of shy around.

Doesn't mean I don't like her,it actually means the exact opposite. But if he's keeping you guessing on purpose I'm not sure. Related myTakes. While everyone's entitled to ease into relationships at their own pace, phrases like this one are often a big red flag. In a healthy relationship, both partners should be able to focus on themselves and maintain their goals and visions for the future, which is why comments like this one often have an underlying meaning.

While couples should feel free to point out habits that they find annoying , or things they'd like to see change in their relationship, it's not a great sign if your significant other is suddenly super annoyed by insignificant things.

Danielle Forshee , tells Bustle. If they once thought it was endearing that you left dishes in the sink, but now it's rubbing them the wrong way, it may be because they're looking for reasons to back away. You won't know for sure, though, unless you ask. Your partner may try to test the waters by making comments that hint at a breakup, such as "you deserve someone better than me. It could also be a sign they're trying to manipulate you into thinking maybe you could do better, Julia McCurley, a professional matchmaker and founder of Something More , tells Bustle.

Whatever the case may be, it's not something you'll want to ignore. If your partner has been talking about your relationship behind your back — especially if they are taking advice from others who don't have the full story — it's definitely a warning sign. In this case, think hard about whether or not the relationship is worth saving. Mavrides says. But if not, it may be healthier to simply move on. If your partner is on the fence, they may begin to set up relationship "tests" as a way of helping them figure out what to do.

So if they start blaming you for things that seem bizarre, take note. They are looking for a black-or-white answer to help them simplify the complexity of the relationship and force their hand, to some degree. If your partner is in the habit of making plans without you — for example, they get invited to a party and don't ask you to come along — either they never took the relationship seriously, or they are slowly beginning to check out.

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